How to Practice Yoga and Make Meaningful Connections

May 30, 2017

Always the hopeful optimist, I am eager to make meaningful connections with people, and at the yoga studio it's no different.  But I've often cried in Savasana and felt alone on my mat.  In a group yoga class, surrounded by seemingly interesting people who I know have at least this one thing in common with me, I have often left the yoga studio feeling isolated and lonely.  

 

 

I've often cried in Savasana and felt alone on my mat.

 

This is certainly not true of all yoga studios, but more often than I wish, I have felt like an outsider, excluded from some yoga clique.  Unsure why, but I was not part of the "in crowd."   I know we're all different - some are shy and others are more outgoing; some come to the studio to be anonymous, others to engage with the people around them.   Why is it so hard to connect with people at the yoga studio?

 

Why is it so hard to connect with people at the yoga studio?

 

As a person who travels a lot for my job, I have been to many yoga studios around the world.  In my opinion, there are two kinds of studios: those with people who are welcoming and kind and care about the people in their presence, and those with people who clearly don't care about you, or otherwise just pretend to give a shit.  

 

Your gut instinct will tell you which is which.  And if you're still not sure, look at smiles that disappear immediately when nobody is looking (they might have been faking it).  Are the teachers only talking to a few people and not equally welcoming to all the students.  Is the vibe in the lobby totally different from the vibe inside the studio?  

 

On the other hand, at a warm and kind studio, you should feel welcomed like a guest, shown around and introduced at a minimum.  You should feel comfortable and accepted like a valuable person with feelings, and not just like a $15 payment.

 

You should feel comfortable and accepted like a valuable person with feelings, and not just like a $15 payment.

 

I hear all about the "yoga community", but what is it exactly? Is it just a group of people who come into a little dark room together, then sit quietly on their own mats, not daring to glance at the person sitting next to them?  

 

Is it a bunch of eager yoga practitioners individually watching yoga classes on YouTube or reading blogs by some distant enlightened yogi?

 

I hear all about the "yoga community", but what is it exactly?

 

Rather than wondering what is the yoga community and how can I be part of it, I have decided to involve myself and others in a comradeship of kindred spirits.  This is a community where people of all abilities, and with many different skills, talents and interests come together to share their love (or simple curiosity) for yoga, and then stick around afterwards.  It's that simple!  Don't run away after Savasana!